{ "id": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "slug": "di-zi-gui-away-from-home", "folderName": "03 Away from Home", "title": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "shortName": "Away from Home", "sourceDeckNames": [ "Deck 3: Navigating Relationships" ], "summary": "Respectful behavior beyond the home, especially with elders, siblings, guests, and the broader community.", "previewQuote": "\"When referring to an elder, do not call him by his first name. When in front of an elder, do not show off.\" - Di Zi Gui", "cardCount": 20, "cards": [ { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 33, "original": "兄道友，弟道恭 (Xiōng Dào Yǒu, Dì Dào Gōng)", "chinese": "兄道友，弟道恭", "pinyin": "Xiōng Dào Yǒu, Dì Dào Gōng", "modern": "Sibling relationships are a delicate dance of mentorship and respect. Support your younger siblings without controlling them, and respect your older siblings' experiences.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 34, "original": "兄弟睦，孝在中 (Xiōng Dì Mù, Xiào Zài Zhōng)", "chinese": "兄弟睦，孝在中", "pinyin": "Xiōng Dì Mù, Xiào Zài Zhōng", "modern": "The greatest gift you can give your parents is peace among their children. Family harmony is the ultimate proof of a successful upbringing.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 35, "original": "财物轻，怨何生 (Cái Wù Qīng, Yuàn Hé Shēng)", "chinese": "财物轻，怨何生", "pinyin": "Cái Wù Qīng, Yuàn Hé Shēng", "modern": "Never let money fracture your family. When you prioritize relationships over inheritances or material possessions, toxic resentment simply cannot take root.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 36, "original": "言语忍，忿自泯 (Yán Yǔ Rěn, Fèn Zì Mǐn)", "chinese": "言语忍，忿自泯", "pinyin": "Yán Yǔ Rěn, Fèn Zì Mǐn", "modern": "Master the art of the pause. In heated family moments, swallowing a sharp retort is the fastest way to de-escalate conflict and protect the bond.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 37, "original": "或饮食，或坐走，长者先，幼者后 (Huò Yǐn Shí, Huò Zuò Zǒu, Zhǎng Zhě Xiān, Yòu Zhě Hòu)", "chinese": "或饮食，或坐走，长者先，幼者后", "pinyin": "Huò Yǐn Shí, Huò Zuò Zǒu, Zhǎng Zhě Xiān, Yòu Zhě Hòu", "modern": "In every casual interaction—from sharing a meal to navigating a room—defer to the experience of those who came before you. Small gestures of yielding signal profound respect.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 38, "original": "长呼人，即代叫，人不在，己即到 (Zhǎng Hū Rén, Jí Dài Jiào, Rén Bù Zài, Jǐ Jí Dào)", "chinese": "长呼人，即代叫，人不在，己即到", "pinyin": "Zhǎng Hū Rén, Jí Dài Jiào, Rén Bù Zài, Jǐ Jí Dào", "modern": "Be a proactive facilitator for those with less energy. Anticipate the needs of the elderly and step up when others are absent, asking, \"How can I help you instead?\"", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 39, "original": "称尊长，勿呼名 (Chēng Zūn Zhǎng, Wù Hū Míng)", "chinese": "称尊长，勿呼名", "pinyin": "Chēng Zūn Zhǎng, Wù Hū Míng", "modern": "Titles carry weight. Using respectful terms of address acknowledges the hierarchy of wisdom and the boundaries of a healthy community.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 40, "original": "对尊长，勿见能 (Duì Zūn Zhǎng, Wù Jiàn Néng)", "chinese": "对尊长，勿见能", "pinyin": "Duì Zūn Zhǎng, Wù Jiàn Néng", "modern": "Do not be self-righteous. Trade arrogance for humility; focus on listening and making others feel valued rather than proving how smart you are.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 41, "original": "路遇长，疾趋揖 (Lù Yù Zhǎng, Jí Qū Yī)", "chinese": "路遇长，疾趋揖", "pinyin": "Lù Yù Zhǎng, Jí Qū Yī", "modern": "Acknowledge people intentionally. When you see someone you respect, give them your full attention and a warm, immediate greeting.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 42, "original": "长无言，退恭立 (Zhǎng Wú Yán, Tuì Gōng Lì)", "chinese": "长无言，退恭立", "pinyin": "Zhǎng Wú Yán, Tuì Gōng Lì", "modern": "Read the room. Sometimes the most respectful thing you can offer is quiet presence and the space for others to direct the interaction.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 43, "original": "骑下马，乘下车 (Qí Xià Mǎ, Chéng Xià Chē)", "chinese": "骑下马，乘下车", "pinyin": "Qí Xià Mǎ, Chéng Xià Chē", "modern": "Remove physical barriers of superiority. Meet people at eye level, put your phone away, and give them your undivided, grounded presence.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 44, "original": "过犹待，百步余 (Guò Yóu Dài, Bǎi Bù Yú)", "chinese": "过犹待，百步余", "pinyin": "Guò Yóu Dài, Bǎi Bù Yú", "modern": "Don't rush away from moments of connection. Linger slightly to ensure the other person is settled or safely on their way before you disconnect.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 45, "original": "长者立，幼勿坐 (Zhǎng Zhě Lì, Yòu Wù Zuò)", "chinese": "长者立，幼勿坐", "pinyin": "Zhǎng Zhě Lì, Yòu Wù Zuò", "modern": "Be physically empathetic to the comfort of others. Never take the easiest seat if someone older or more vulnerable is left standing.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 46, "original": "长者坐，命乃坐 (Zhǎng Zhě Zuò, Mìng Nǎi Zuò)", "chinese": "长者坐，命乃坐", "pinyin": "Zhǎng Zhě Zuò, Mìng Nǎi Zuò", "modern": "Practice patience in social dynamics. Allow the hosts or the respected figures in the room to set the pace and the comfort level.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 47, "original": "尊长前，声要低 (Zūn Zhǎng Qián, Shēng Yào Dī)", "chinese": "尊长前，声要低", "pinyin": "Zūn Zhǎng Qián, Shēng Yào Dī", "modern": "Modulate your energy. A calm, measured tone shows that you are in control of yourself and deeply considerate of the environment you're creating.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 48, "original": "低不闻，却非宜 (Dī Bù Wén, Què Fēi Yí)", "chinese": "低不闻，却非宜", "pinyin": "Dī Bù Wén, Què Fēi Yí", "modern": "Speak with quiet confidence. You must balance gentleness with clarity, ensuring your voice is an instrument of clear communication, not timid mumbling.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 49, "original": "进必趋，退必迟 (Jìn Bì Qū, Tuì Bì Chí)", "chinese": "进必趋，退必迟", "pinyin": "Jìn Bì Qū, Tuì Bì Chí", "modern": "Move with intention. Show eagerness and enthusiasm when stepping up to help, and depart with a lingering warmth that leaves a lasting impression.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 50, "original": "问起对，视勿移 (Wèn Qǐ Duì, Shì Wù Yí)", "chinese": "问起对，视勿移", "pinyin": "Wèn Qǐ Duì, Shì Wù Yí", "modern": "Eye contact is the currency of connection. When someone speaks to you, give them the radical gift of your undivided, unwavering focus.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 51, "original": "事诸父，如事父 (Shì Zhū Fù, Rú Shì Fù)", "chinese": "事诸父，如事父", "pinyin": "Shì Zhū Fù, Rú Shì Fù", "modern": "Expand your definition of family. Treat the elders in your community with the exact same reverence and care you reserve for your own parents.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" }, { "chapter": "Chapter 3: Navigating Relationships (出则弟)", "deckName": "Di Zi Gui Deck 3: Away from Home", "verseNumber": 52, "original": "事诸兄，如事兄 (Shì Zhū Xiōng, Rú Shì Xiōng)", "chinese": "事诸兄，如事兄", "pinyin": "Shì Zhū Xiōng, Rú Shì Xiōng", "modern": "Treat every peer and colleague with familial loyalty. When you view your network as an extended family, competition turns into fierce collaboration.", "deckId": "away-from-home", "deckNumber": 3, "folderName": "03 Away from Home" } ] }